Showing posts with label Leadership. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Leadership. Show all posts

Friday, December 12, 2008

Four Arguments You Just Can't Win Pt 4
Perry Noble

Part 4 of Perry Noble's series on "Four Arguments You Just Can't Win"...



Four Arguments You Just Can’t Win - Part Four

Posted: 12 Dec 2008 05:27 AM CST

Final post on this!

#4 - Your Church Is Too Entertaining.

I ALWAYS reply, “should the church be more entertaining…or boring?”

One of the definitions of entertainment is to hold ones attention for a specific amount of time…and if that is what I am being accused of then I am GUILTY AS CHARGED!!!

God often used EXTREME language AND unique circumstances to get people’s attention in Scripture…I think we, as His church, should be willing to do the same.

NOW…the KEY here is to not allow the tail to wag the dog. A church service should never begin with, “I’ve got a really cool video idea…let’s design a church service around it.”

The CENTRAL driving force in a church should be the Scriptures. However, placed around the preaching should be our BEST…our best music, video, greeters, children’s workers…EVERYTHING! We should go all out every week to offer up our best…and BEG God to make up the difference.

Every week we are going to preach the Gospel at NewSpring Church…AND we are going to do our best to make sure that the experience is something that people want to bring their friends and family members to.

Some people may argue that, because of the planning and preparation that goes into a service that there is no room for the Holy Spirit…two things to keep in mind here…

#1 - I think the Holy Spirit works THROUGH the planning and preparation process!!!! I know I’ve seen Him do so. And…

#2 - There should ALWAYS be room in a church service for Him to move and blow everything up…which He often does!!!

Saying all of that…our Christmas services are going to be incredible. We are planning like crazy and preparing one of the most creative presentations we’ve ever been led to design…

HOWEVER, we are also BEGGING GOD to show up and make up the difference.

Prayer and preparation are NOT supposed to work in opposition to one another…but in harmony!

YES, Christmas services WILL be entertaining…and lives will be changed! I can’t wait!!!







Thursday, December 11, 2008

Four Arguments You Just Can't Win Pt 3
Perry Noble


And here is part 3 to Perry Noble's series on Four Arguments You Just Can't Win...

This one is one all pastors have or will hear at some point. Perry has some great wisdom and insight on this based on how New Spring approaches discipleship... we ain't talking cloning folks!

Four Arguments You Just Can’t Win - Part Three

Here’s the third…

#3 - Your Church Doesn’t Disciple Anyone.

Ever heard this one? Once again…look at WHO it usually comes from…a guy who ISN’T actually discipling anyone himself…but LOVES to sit around and complain about what he perceives to be a problem.

This may sound a lot like the last post I did not this…but, ANYTIME someone asks me to define what making a disciple is they usually just look at me with a blank stare. AND…when I push them on it they finally admit that a disciple is usually someone who acts and thinks JUST LIKE THEM!!! (Which is the pinnacle of arrogance!)

Anytime I hear this argument I think about the story in Acts 8:26-40 where Phillip led the Ethopian eunech to Christ…and then BAM, the Bible says God took Phillip away! OBVIOUSLY God doesn’t care about discipleship because he didn’t tell the eunech to immerse himself into a culture that ignores the world.

Should we desire to grow in our faith? ABSOLUTELY! Should the church provide an environment for that to take place in? Once again, ABSOLUTELY!

HOWEVER, it is not the churches job to MAKE people grow…but rather to provide the environments for it.

Every Sunday at NewSpring Church it is our goal in every sermon to either…

#1 - Teach someone something they did not know…

#2 - Remind them of something they have forgotten…

AND…

#3 - Challenge them to take action based on what they learned.

THAT, in our minds, is discipleship. If people are reminded or learn 52 news things every single year and follow through on them…they are changed…and so is the world they live in!

Sure, we do other things as well…groups, volunteer teams, taking an offering (all a part of discipleship)…but, in my opinion, we make the process of discipleship WAY too complicated!

Paul dealt with this in Acts 15 (great story)…and Acts 15:19 is one of the most descriptive verses on what the responsibility of the church is when it comes to discipling…we should NOT make it difficult…but rather do our best to assist people in taking their next steps…which are usually difficult without the church even getting involved.

One more thing on this…the person who usually throws this argument out there will also say things like, “I’m not being fed!” Which actually is a reflection of their pitiful spiritual condition!!!

You see, when Charisse was a little girl, I fed her. She is now 17 months old…and I place the food in front of her and she eats it. In a year or so she will be able to go to the fridge and get her own food…THAT is simply a sign of her maturity.

The same is true spiritually. When someone first comes to Christ we should invest heavily in them. As time goes on we should consistently place the food in front of them. (We do this every Sunday). And then, one day, we should hope that they actually open up the Bible and feed themselves.





Arguments You Can't Win (Pt 2)
Perry Noble


Part 2 from Perry Noble's four part-er on Arguments You Can't Win....

This is one argument that like the previous argument in Part 1 that I have heard and just don't care to waste time discussing. I am not "deep" as in confusing... I am very practical and break it down. My husband has always told me not to worry because Jesus wasn't "deep" in that sense either... that is why he told parables (stories)... so I guess I am in great company! Enjoy!


Four Arguments You Just Can’t Win - Part Two


Continuing this series…

#2 - You Are Not Deep Enough!

We’ve all heard this one…and it used to bother me! Seriously, I have always tried and tried to show people how practical and real the Scriptures are…I prepare like crazy and study a ton…and so when someone used to say this I really took it personally…until…

I actually began looking at the type of person who said this.

They were usually someone who was OBSESSED with INFORMATION but cared very little about TRANSFORMATION!

SO…I began asking them this question whenever they brought this complaint, “Can you define ‘DEEP’ for me?”

What I usually get are blank stares and a lot of stuttering. No one, I mean NO ONE has EVER been able to define “deep!” SO…I realized that I was allowing other people to hold me captive to a standard that they could not even define! Folks, that pretty much makes that argument one you just can’t win.

Two things before I leave this one alone…

What MANY people mean when they say “deep” is actually “confusing.” They want me to teach line by line, verse by verse (something Jesus never actually did) and say REALLY obscure things and REALLY big words…and then GLOAT that they actually understood some of the sermon…and look down on those who didn’t

Our job is not to confuse people…but to preach Jesus Christ, the GOSPEL…and when presented in its most simple and purest form, God uses it to change lives.

The second thing I noticed about this person is that they usually aren’t actively doing anything for Christ. They think the more they know the more like Christ they are becoming. Which actually isn’t true at all…NO ONE knows more ABOUT Christ than satan, yet he doesn’t follow through on what he knows! SO…the person who knows what they should be doing but suppress that by saying they want to go “deeper” and know more aren’t actually becoming more like Jesus…but rather they are becoming more like satan!!!

Pastors, we are responsible to teach WHATEVER and HOWEVER God leads us to teach! And if people aren’t satisfied by our “depth” and “wisdom” then we’ve GOT to be okay with that; after all, MOST of us are educated WAY beyond our level of obedience anyway.

OR…as I once heard someone say, “it’s not the parts of the Bible that I don’t understand that bother me…it’s the parts that I do understand that bother me!”

We can spend our lives trying to impress those already in the Kingdom with our knowledge…OR by trying to reach those far from God by simply explaining the Gospel! I’m going with the Gospel…EVERY SINGLE TIME!!!

Awesome, awesome stuff!!! I just had to do a re-print!!!





Tuesday, December 09, 2008

An Arguement You Just Can't Win (Pt. 1)
Pastor Perry Noble


As I have said before, I truly enjoy Perry Noble's blog. Once again, he has hit it out of the park! He is doing a four part-er on arguments you cannot win. I come from a long line of argumentative people and it took close to 30 years for me to realize that I do not HAVE to argue about everything! Akthough some days that argumentative side does creep back up (I am certain my husband is somewhere saying amen!). However, several years ago I learned that there indeed some arguements you cannot win.. nor should you even try.

Four Arguments You Just Can’t Win - Part One

by Pastor Perry Noble

Posted: 09 Dec 2008 05:44 AM CST

I know lots of church planters/pastors read this blog…and so this week I want to hit five arguments that I believe are absolutely meaningless to be involved in because…you just can’t win them–ever.

These are arguments that will ALWAYS exist in your church…but you should not waste your time with them (mainly because of WHO is voicing the concern and not the actual concern itself…another post, another time!)

#1 - You Are Full Of Pride & Arrogance

Let me be very clear about this…you have GOT to have people in your life who…

§ Love Jesus

§ Love the church

§ Love you

AND they need to be in that order! We need men and women who have permission and feel the freedom to step into our lives and confront/rebuke us when necessary. Scripture is clear that God HATES pride…and so we should invite the correction of people who love us enough to tell the truth.

HOWEVER, what I have discovered is that the overwhelming majority of the time I have personally heard this accusation it comes at a time where I cast strong vision as to the direction of the church…and some people just aren’t able to deal with it.

Make no mistake…a confident leader will ALWAYS be perceived by those who do not like the direction the leader is taking the church as “prideful.” Telling someone they are full of pride is the “silver bullet” if you will of a critic because…you CANNOT refute them–you just can’t!!!

I personally think one of the problems that dominates our churches today are leaders who are just not confident, spend no time with God and receive their direction from impotent “leaders” in the church who can’t actually lead in the real world…so they FLOCK to the only place that will allow them to have a voice–the church. And…they understand how to play the game…once you are there for a while…they will make you the “leader” by default!

I’ve seen this in action…these people many times (not in all cases) do not actually have a passion and a vision for the church…they simply want to see how fast they can complete the meeting and, by faith, increase the budget by 3% for the upcoming year.

And…when these people are not personally catered to…then you are considered to be full of pride.

What is even GREATER is when people who don’t even attend your church begin to shoot you emails that spell out God’s direction for your church…and when you refuse to listen to them they say you are “full of pride.”

Pastors - our PRIMARY RESPONSIBILITY is to be faithful to God, to allow Him to place a white hot passion inside of us, to be CONSUMED with what consumes Him…and then to walk in COMPLETE and TOTAL obedience–PERIOD.

WHEN you do this…people will accuse you of being prideful because, unfortunately, the church for the most part just isn’t used to a confident leader!

BUT…make sure you have the right people around you, the ones who will speak TRUTH and tell you what you NEED to hear rather than what you WANT to hear…get your vision and direction from God…and then be unapologetic in your pursuit of what He reveals!

And…when the crowd begins to use the “pride” card…you will KNOW that you are sticking to your vision rather than becoming a “paid servant” of the “committee on committees!”





Friday, December 05, 2008

The Hater
by Pastor Penny Hipp

Pastor Penny Hipp, Co-Pastor of Cross River Church in Mobile, AL wrote this awesome piece... I just had to post it and give her a shout out!!! She and her husband Joey co-pastor Cross River together. Craig and I had the opportunity to meet Pastor Joey here in Chicago when he spoke at a local church. We thoroughly enjoyed and received from his ministry. I also just found out that Pastor Penny is Facebook friends with one of my sistas, Sandy Phinazee! Sandy is a precious and powerful woman of God too! Anyway, I know you will enjoy this blog piece as much as I do! Be encouraged!



The Hater

A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall. They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough! Do you know anybody like that?

When you are successful, you will always attract some haters. I want friends who will be with me when I am successful and on the mountain top. Sure, it’s good to have them when things aren’t so good too!


That's why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams, because some folk just can't handle seeing you blessed!


It's dangerous to be like somebody else. If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right?


You never know what people have gone through to get what they have. The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don't know my story.


If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!


We've all got some haters among us!


Some people envy you because you:
a) Have a relationship with God
b) Light up a room when you walk in
c) Have a great personality
d) Are magnetic
e) Are financially blessed
f) Have been promoted by God


Haters can't stand to see you happy. Haters will never want to see you succeed. Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.


How do you handle your undercover haters?


You can handle these haters by:


1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are (VERY IMPORTANT!!)


2. Having a purpose to your life. Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.


3. By remembering that what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.


Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when it’s your time to leave this earth, you want to be able to say, “I've lived my life and fulfilled ‘my’ dreams, now I'm ready to go HOME!”


When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, “Don't look at me...Look at Who is in charge of me...”






Sunday, August 31, 2008

Shattering the Glass Ceiling

Yes, I've been away from my blogdom for a little while. I've been prepping nonstop for Unstoppable and squeezing in moments to finish getting the girls ready for school to start on Tuesday. They still have one more day of summer fun to indulge in!

In the meantime, I have been GIDDY with excitement over McCain's choice of Alaska Governor Sarah Palin for his VP running mate! So, I have been itching to post about it! I have also been hankering to post about another woman... Hilary Clinton and her speech at the DNC. In true Destiny Driven style, I am going to tie these events to something near and dear to my hear t (without disclosing who I may or may not vote for!)... the shattering of the glass ceiling in both the secular and church arenas.

Let's start with Hilary Clinton. Wow, what a woman! She certainly took the Democratic Party on a wild ride! Alas, the world was not quite ready for a woman in the Commander in Chief's chair, close but no Presidential Seal. All in all, when it came down to it, I believe she portrayed the picture of "grace under pressure" when she gave a charismatic, passionate speech at the DNC last week. In my own opinion, I do not believe a man could have or ever has brought it like she did.

As she forged ahead, the question on everyone's mind... "Can she pull this speech off without sounding bitter???"... was answered within seconds of beginning....

"And whether you voted for me, or voted for Barack, the time is now to unite as a single party with a single purpose. We are on the same team, and none of us can afford to sit on the sidelines. This is a fight for the future. And it’s a fight we must win together." (Hilary Clinton DNC speech)

And whether we like it or not, she made a HUGE crack in the glass ceiling not only for all of us as women, but definitely for our daughters....

"And after so many decades — 88 years ago on this very day — the 19th amendment giving women the right to vote became enshrined in our Constitution. My mother was born before women could vote. My daughter got to vote for her mother for president."

I have to say that I never considered what that must have felt like to Hilary and Chelsea. Like her or not, THAT had to be an amazing moment for grandmother, mother and daughter. And, come on, who didn't love her little shout out to her "sista' girls" with the quote...

"To my supporters, to my champions — to my sisterhood of the traveling pantsuits — from the bottom of my heart: Thank you. Thank you because you never gave in. You never gave up. And together we made history."

Can I say I felt empowered by her speech?... minus the knocks against McCain... I hate that, but both parties do it... part of the political game I guess! Still, when Hilary quoted Harriet Tubman... I felt the Holy Ghost! Am I being a bit facetious? Um, yeah... but at the same time, I am being totally honest...

"By following the example of a brave New Yorker , a woman who risked her life to bring slaves along the Underground Railroad. On that path to freedom, Harriet Tubman had one piece of advice. If you hear the dogs, keep going. If you see the torches in the woods, keep going. If they’re shouting after you, keep going. Don’t ever stop. Keep going. If you want a taste of freedom, keep going."

Wow! If I were Barak Obama, I'd be seriously kicking myself! Why in the world did he NOT choose Hilary Rodham Clinton as his VP running mate? I don't know the answer to that, and as my husband pointed out, perhaps he actually did and she turned him down. Is Biden a better partner? Maybe, I don't know, but I do know that John McCain's choice of Sarah Palin caused every jaw in America to do one of two things... if your jaw is of the male persuasion, it DROPPED... female persuasion... it POPPED up into a beaming smile!

Governor Sarah Palin, the spokes model for 71% of women in the nation. That 71% of woman have children (60% have children UNDER 3) AND careers! Sarah Palin could not have come at a better time for a woman like me.

Sarah Palin is a born again Christian who believes in the power of the Holy Spirit! At the opening night banquet of the 2008 Alaska AG District Council, Governor Sarah Palin addressed the delegates and guests. Governor Palin spoke of her appreciation for the Assemblies of God and requested that the Council pray for both her and the State of Alaska. Superintendent Ted Boatsman, who was Palin's junior high pastor at Wasilla Assembly of God, along with Pastor Mike Rose of Juneau Christian Center, where Palin presently attends church when in Juneau,laid hands on the Governor and led the Council in prayer.

She is also mother of a large family and lives partnership in marriage with her husband, Todd. As a matter of fact, this supermom/governor/VP candidate Palin gave birth to her youngest child, Trig, in April 2008 while in office as governor. Though she announced that she was pregnant only during the start of her third trimester and one month before Trig was born, her pregnancy is reported to have surprised Alaskans, including her staff. After her water broke, on the day of Trig's delivery, Palin delivered a keynote address in Texas and then flew 8 hours to Alaska. Palin returned to office quickly, just three days after delivering Trig. The baby has Down syndrome; Palin's decision to have the baby was applauded by the pro-life community. (Information quoted from Wiki-pedia)

Her husband is no stranger to being a partner in parenting either! Like his wife, he is able to swap the traditional roles. “My husband loves being a dad as much as I love being a mom,” Palin said. “I’ve got great help there.” (quoted from Timesonline)

And, she is an obvious believer in co-pastoring as well because when in the capital she attends Juneau Christian Center where the church staff is made up of four co-pastoring couples! (Check it out here... )

She was a “hockey mom” who cut her teeth at the parent-teacher association before becoming mayor of Wasilla, a suburb of Anchorage with a population under 7,000. In 2006 she beat the corrupt male establishment in Alaska to win the governorship. (quoted from Timesonline)

She hunts, ice-fishes and is a crack shot who knows how to fire an M16 rifle. “I was raised in a family where gender was not going to be an issue,” she said. “The girls did what the boys did. Apparently in Alaska that’s quite commonplace.” (quoted from Timesonline)

Sarah Palin is sharp, she is determined and I believe she brings balance to the Republican ticket! If people are concerned that John McCain has no heart and does not want to bring our troops home, he wouldn't be able to ignore the voices of every mother who has a son or daughter in Iraq- even if he wanted to, because his partner will be there to remind him! That's right in addition to everything else, Sarah Palin's 18 year old son is headed to Iraq in September.

I listened to Sarah Palin's acceptance speech and I read the transcript over and over. I believe that Sarah can be closely compared to a modern day Esther. But THAT is another post!

Her quote... "It was rightly noted in Denver this week that Hillary left 18 million cracks in the highest, hardest glass ceiling in America but it turns out the women of America aren’t finished yet and we can shatter that glass ceiling once and for all." rang out for every woman in the world.

I am truly a fan of both Sarah Palin and Hilary Clinton. I may not be in full agreement with either of them on every issue, but one thing I am for is the equal opportunity for every person, regardless of their gender to fulfill every bit of God given potential and destiny within them! On that issue, we are ALL on the same page!

Now, where does the church fit in with all this? Some of the church, they are right with me... others, not so much.

When will the glass ceiling of the church be hammered with 18 million cracks? I'll leave you with a couple nails that need to be hit so it can be....

1.) When the church stops misinterpreting the scriptures. One scripture I am referring to is about women being the "weaker vessel." Paul uses the "vessel" metaphor when he exhorts every Christians to be "a vessel for honor, sanctified, useful to the Master, prepared for every good work"

(2Tm 2:19-21). This is true for anyone, male or female, who "names the name of the Lord". This does not tell us what Peter means by calling a woman "the weaker vessel", but it certainly shows us something he does not mean. A woman who belongs to God and names his name is no less honored, no less sanctified, and no less useful to the Master than a man who belongs to God and names his name.

(Acts 9:15). There have been times when God has intervened in the life of some person and selected that person for a special purpose. Paul was one, Mary was another. She was the chosen vessel whereby "God sent forth his Son born of a woman" (Gal 4:4). We would be hard pressed to think of any person in history more wonderfully chosen than Mary, chosen to be the mother of the Lord (Lke 1:26-56). This does not tell us what Peter means by calling a woman "the weaker vessel", but it certainly shows us something he does not mean. Among God's chosen vessels a woman was bestowed and blessed with no less greatness than a man.

A different metaphor, that of a soldier, is used by Paul when he exhorts, "Be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the full armor of God that you may be able to stand firm..."

(Eph 6:10-13). Whom is Paul addressing? Whom is he calling to battle? Who is to gird their loins with truth and plate their breasts with righteousness? Whose feet are to be shod with the gospel of peace, and who is to grasp the shield of faith? Who is to don the helmet of salvation and to bravely wield the sword of the Spirit? Who is to march into battle against the powers of darkness, the terrible spiritual forces of wickedness? It is no battle for a weakling. Who shall be a soldier for Christ? The answer does not tell us what Peter means by calling a woman "the weaker vessel", but it certainly shows us something he does not mean. In the Lord's army women and men fight shoulder to shoulder and one is as "strong in the Lord" as the other.

Yet another metaphor, that of an athlete running the marathon, is used by the Hebrew writer when urging us to "run with endurance the race that is set before us"

(Heb 12:1-2). Who is to run this race of endurance? Whose legs are to be strong, and whose feet swift? Whose will is to get them through the pain barrier, and discipline them to make the distance? The answer does not tell us what Peter means by calling a woman "the weaker vessel", but it certainly shows us something he does not mean. In the Christian race, women and men run together without handicap. Women and men start and finish at the same lines. Women "run with endurance" the same race as men.

Some people read Peter's statement that a woman is "the weaker vessel" and say, "There you are, you see, God says that woman is the weaker vessel. That is God's law and purpose for woman. God created her to be the weaker sex." However that is a fancy. Peter is not saying any such thing, for if he were he would contradict the Genesis account...

"God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them". The first two humans were different, but neither was superior or inferior to the other (Gen 1:27). Adam could not find a wife among all the creatures of flesh and blood. So God took a part of Adam himself, one of his ribs in fact, and from it created a woman who corresponded to Adam. She alone among all flesh was his equal. Otherwise she would have been unsuitable like the other creatures (Gen 2:18-23). This does not tell us what Peter means by calling a woman "the weaker vessel", but it certainly shows us something he does not mean. Woman is not a lesser being than man, for she came out of man and like him was created in the image of God. Peter himself said that woman and man are "heirs together of the grace of life" (1Pe 3:7).

Many ministers will custom build their own understanding of scripture without really studying the Word. For instance, many are quick to point out scriptures classifying women as less than, however, the Word says that God is no respecter of persons! Furthermore, at certain times in history, this same ignorance rallied people to justify slavery as well!

2.) Give both men AND women equal opportunity for fulfillment of destiny and call. The day of the "good ol' boys' club" is OVER! Although there is still a remnant of men who are not up to snuff in the corporate world, the church is shamefully behind in this arena! A dear friend of mine was once told that, "women in ministry is kind of like whipped cream. A little is real good, but a whole bowlful will make you sick!" Men who make and believe comments like that make me sick!

Pastors, if we are living in a time when a young woman can vote for her mother for President of the USA, it is high time the church recognizes that there are women in ministry ready to take on similar roles in the church and in denominational offices all over the USA.

This post could go on forever, that I am certain of! However, as a woman who wears the hats of believer, wife, mother, minister, project manager, daughter, sister, friend, and citizen... I have a list as long as this post that I must get to!

In closing, to all of the Palin haters... (and I need to stop getting riled by them...) just hush your mouths... Esther was an orphan, unqualified, unpolished, BUT... obedient... and look at what God did through her!

And to Governor/VP Candidate Palin.... heed the words spoken by another woman we both respect....

"On that path to freedom, Harriet Tubman had one piece of advice. If you hear the dogs, keep going. If you see the torches in the woods, keep going. If they’re shouting after you, keep going. Don’t ever stop. Keep going. If you want a taste of freedom, keep going. And even in the darkest of moments, that is what Americans have done. We have found the faith to keep going." (Hilary Rodham Clinton)

Love & Blessings,

Tara